Victimizing

People don't generally appreciate another (person) claiming to be a victim. It comes off a whiny and weak.

Of course it's different when we (or someone close to us) is victimized.

When a Jewish person mentions how they come from a heritage which suffered one of the worst attrocities in history are they "playing the victim", or pointing out historical fact?

When a woman talks about being raped, is she "victimizing" herself, or telling us about a heinous crime?

When an adult mle mentions his depression making his life a living hell, is he "playing victim", or sharing his feelings?

By the way, if you think these examples are exaggerated, I suggest you go tell that to Walter Koenig and other parents of adult males who have committed suicide.

Some would say that a person is "playing victim" when they expect something from others.

That may be true IN SOME CASES, but I believe the rape victim has every right to expect help in the form of medical attention, legal advice, and extra protection.

Why then is the adult male (often) perceived as "playing the victim" (IE. weak) when discussing the difficulties his depression bring about?

In an ironic twist, the family and friends of an adult male are accepted as "victims" after he commits suicide.