Acceptance

Acceptance is often presented as an easy catch-phrase answer when we don't know what to do.
"You lost your job?, just accept it and move on."
"Someone lied / stole / hurt you, just accept."

Of course dwelling on past events is not healthy, but neither is just "accepting" without dissecting said event and resolving it (as much as possible) in our hearts and minds.

For the depressive person, "accepting" negative outcomes often turns out to be unwarranted self-criticism.

Sometimes losing a job, getting lied to, getting robbed, or hurt is NOT the victim's fault, and "simple acceptance" that "nothing can be done about it" becomes "it must be my fault / I must have done something wrong..."

As much as the situation can not be modified, how we see it and judge those involved can make all the difference between truly moving on and simply "accepting".

Where were you?

Have you ever felt the urge to tell people they were not "there" for you? Did you feel they were actively present when you really needed them?

Worse, did they become present when you were better and somehow take credit or make you feel inadequate?

In our society which calls itself open and accepting are people genuinely available when needed?

Do people just "not know" or do they choose to "not know"?